Someone commented about my book "I ❤️ MY DOUBLES PARTNER!!!" that they don't love all of their doubles partners...and here is my response.... Yes - I understand. That is what made me write the book too. There are times when I don't like the behavior or treatment of my partners. Perhaps the way they speak, their tone of voice or their body language annoys me. Maybe they aren't acting how I think they ought to. Or maybe they aren't treating me the way I want them to. So - I get mad at them. Or disappointed. Or sad. And that is not fun for me - or them. I am essentially saying, "you aren't worthy of my love". What I am working on is realizing that we are all individuals - and have had different experiences which have shaped us to be who we are today. Some of us have overcome trauma better than others. Some people are still hurting tremendously. And that it is safe to LOVE them anyway!!! My doubles partner doesn't have to "earn" my love by doing what I want them to.
Instead - I am learning to look for the GOOD in all of my partners and focus on that!!! This is my practice. To love every human being on earth. No matter how they show up. (Yes even pediphiles, rapists and murderers)